Okay, I did not read Sheryl Sandberg’s book Lean In about giving encouraging advice to woman in the workplace. Sandberg, the COO of Facebook, is getting great reviews just for addressing the issue that women are not getting the respect they deserve on the job. I totally agree, but not for the same reasons. I will read her book in the upcoming months, but I just know from all the reviews that she did not cover the viewpoint I have had for the last 46 years of my career.
Men are not the reason why women are second class citizens. Women have allowed themselves to take that place. Maybe it is a mother nature thing, but women are their own worst enemy. You can argue this point with me from now to the end of time, but I will stick to my opinion because of what I have seen over the years.
Most upsetting to me is the increasing number of New York career women in the digital workforce who are getting lap dancing jobs at some sleazy night club in the Financial District to supplement their incomes to the tune of up to $1,000 a night. I read about this joint, the Saint Venus Theater, this morning in several newspapers and heard about it again during the day from some of my contacts. Women are making big bucks each night just by gyrating in some guy’s face. And unlike the lap dancing dives I knew of in my heyday, this one allows men to actually touch the women from the waist up.
What sickens me tremendously is that these women have meaningful jobs with great potential. The problem is that many women just want to be the next Kim Kardashian or Paris Hilton. They could care less about their careers. They want to go from showing their bodies off to being mommies in some rich man’s house. I don’t know where these girls are coming from, but they seem to be multiplying on the streets of Manhattan. How serious can you be about a woman in business today when she bends over the conference room table to reach for a pen and pad and most of her tush is exposed for all to see.
In my opinion, this has been going on since the beginning of time. I have been so disappointed with women co-workers who would rather use their bodies to advance their careers than experience the day-to-day sweat that it takes to build one. Some of us don’t have a choice. We were not given the goods to take the sexy alternative route. We do, however, have the upper hand. We know we are stronger, smarter, more sensible and have better survival instincts then most of our male counterparts. We just need women to have more confidence in themselves and be willing to experience one of the most rewarding joys in life: self fulfillment.