Vulnerability

I have been thinking about posting this Ted Talk about “vulnerability” for a few weeks now. I recently got into a conversation with friends about understanding and facing vulnerability.

I found out that people in their ’60s are just beginning to understand that being vulnerable is just another situation in life that has a beginning, middle and end. My friends feel how we choose to deal with vulnerability has a lot to do with our upbringing and environment.

Researcher Brene Brown talks about “leaning into the discomfort of vulnerability and allowing ourselves to be seen. “The people who can do this the easiest are the ones who have a strong sense of love and belonging — and folks who struggle– are always wondering if they’re good enough.”

Brown said we are all imperfect. We are wired for struggle. Instead of catastrophizing what might happen, just think, “I’m just so grateful, because to feel this vulnerable means I’m alive. When we stop screaming and start listening, we’re kinder and gentler to the people around us, and we’re kinder and gentler to ourselves.”

Too bad many of us are just focusing on this now. We wasted a lot of time. No more please.

2 thoughts on “Vulnerability

  1. Vulnerability is a complex issue because it evolves mostly from the loss of faculties. As we age we become slower, less agile, weaker and less adept, despite our best efforts. Some are better at delaying the inevitable than others, and the effort is certainly worthwhile. Perhaps the worst aspect of vulnerability is the loss of relevance. Certainly the joy of loved ones and the appreciation of many of life’s simple pleasures makes vulnerability tolerable.

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