Netflix, Etc.

The four of us are all from Hollis, Queens where Jay’s Diner on Hillside Avenue and Francis Lewis Blvd was ground zero for big dreams and big ideas. Say hello to Run-DMC, one of the world’s greatest hip-hop groups, and Lois Schneider Whitman-Hess who refuses to give up. Photo by Eliot Hess, Belfast, Ireland.

The thing that you love most about Netflix is about to change. Get ready. There is a good chance that you might start to see ads between shows. Netflix is testing it out, but it just may be the start of annoying commercial interruptions. The official statement from Netflix is “We are testing whether surfacing recommendations between episodes helps members discover stories they will enjoy faster.” Netflix claims viewers will be able to skip ads for other shows. If you are really upset by this news, you can read more about this on CNBC. Click here.

I am trying to get some momentum on a social media campaign. If you are a Twitter user, I would appreciate your participation. No obligation.

Should this gorgeous hunk be given another chance? Please click below to watch the video. We are looking for some clever responses on Twitter. Please post #Waterpiklovesyou

We Arrived In Belfast

This is small part of a three mile wall that separates the Protestants from the Catholics in Belfast. Take a look at the future of America. This is exactly where we are headed.

We are staying at the Europa Hotel. It was bombed 33 times during the conflict. It gives me the creeps that hatred still lives here.

I’m standing in front of Queens University in Belfast. This is where the mobile defibrillator was invented and Milk of Magnesia.

Second Day in Dublin

This public art statue is a gift to Dublin, and other cities around the world, from an artist who wants to remain anonymous. The premise is to remind everyone to be kind to the homeless. Don’t assume you know their story. Have you seen this statue anywhere else?

We were told to do the pub crawl in the Temple Bar area so we followed orders.

Life Lessons

I like hearing what other seniors have to say about the stage of life they are in. I think it’s important to know that most of us have the same challenges, at one time, or another. I guess it’s all about attitude. Here are some thoughts on that.

From a 70 year old

From an 80 year old

From a 92 year old

From 100 year olds

Say Hello To Buycott

I had a big awakening today. I found out that a product I have been using for years, is owned by a very destructive #metoo man, I have no respect for. The minute I found out, I stopped buying the product.

I told a few friends about the incident. One of my pals then told me that I needed to use Buycott. It’s an app that let’s you scan the barcode of any package. It could be on a bottle of soap, or a cereal box, or even a tomato. Once you do that, you can find out information about the company that produces it.

It’s wonderful to be able to have real-time information about the standards or background of a company. It gives you the power you need to make the right decisions. Read more about Buycott here.


Why a Bad Mood May be Good for You

Diane Dahli

( Diane Dahli has been a faithful and loyal reader of DigiDame for many years. Thank you Diane. Diane is also a blogger. She wrote a post about mood swings that I wanted to share with you. It’s fascinating. I feel it’s very relevant for people our age.)

On some days, even perfect ones like today, when everything is fine in my world, I’ve been known to suddenly experience what I can only describe as a bad mood. I don’t obsess about it, or even question it. A wave of sadness appears out of nowhere, and usually, if I practice gratitude for a few minutes, it melts away. Even anger, (which momentarily appears as irritation with small things that can go wrong in life), doesn’t linger for long, and can be dispersed with a few philosophical thoughts.

Dealing with my emotions has become part of my everyday existence, and I accept this as proof that I am vitally alive and responsive to life’s situations.

We all have the capacity to experience a bad mood, or to be more specific, the full range of emotions—happiness, sadness, joy, anger, envy, resentment—it’s what makes us human. Most people go through life on an emotional even keel, feeling basically happy most days, and reserving the deeper emotions for specific situations. But some people are more expressive, and feel things more keenly. It doesn’t mean they are unbalanced, or disturbed or deficient in any way. It’s just that their feelings seem to be more accessible, and closer to the surface.

Who knew that a bad mood can be good for us?

In fact, psychologists claim that all emotions, even negative ones, such as fear, anger, shame or disgust, are useful to us. They stem from ancient, primordial instincts, which help us recognize, and avoid dangerous situations.

Mild, temporary bad moods help us cope with everyday challenges and alert us to issues in our lives that need to be addressed.

Having always felt that bad moods are undesirable, I was surprised to learn that, according to some studies, the following benefits, among others, can occur as a result of experiencing a bad mood:

better memory: A bad mood has been known to focus the memory, so that details are sharper, particularly in the case of eyewitness accounts. By being less distracted during an event, evidently, people who are in a bad mood can weed out irrelevant information and recall these details more accurately.

more motivation: It’s no surprise to me that people who are ‘driven’, and possibly angry, try harder and persevere more when performing a task. This drive may come from a need to prove something—a desire a more happy, complacent person may not have.

better communication has been indicated by subjects who are in a bad mood.

more accurate judgments were made by subjects in a bad mood, who relied less on stereotypes and rumors.

Seeing someone in a bad mood makes people uncomfortable

So if feeling bad is not bad for us, and may even be beneficial, why is our society so consumed with the need to be happy at all times? Why does seeing someone in a bad mood—expressing sadness, anger or distress—become a cause for concern?

In our culture, unhappiness is looked upon as an illness. People who are ’emotional’ are considered sick in some way, and in need of therapy. Teenagers, particularly, in their period of emotional development, are understandably unstable, and  not necessarily in need of ‘help’. Older people, experiencing natural feelings of loss or sadness are sometimes too hastily considered risks for dementia or worse.

I agree with the current studies that we have emotions for a reason, that they may be ultimately beneficial and necessary to our existence. I would add that it is important to acknowledge them, and to allow ourselves to experience them. Denying our feelings has become an outcome of the current “cult of happiness” in our culture. It is not natural, and it is not healthy.

I think that the issue here is not if and how we experience our emotions, but how we manage them.

Wellness coach and author Elizabeth Scott, discusses this in her February 12, 2018 article “How Negative Emotions Affect Us and How to Embrace Them”:

“The idea of “managing” negative emotions is a complex one. It doesn’t mean avoiding feeling them—avoidance coping is actually a form of coping that attempts to do this, and it can often backfire. It also doesn’t mean letting these negative emotions wreak havoc on your life, your relationships, and your stress levels. Unmanaged anger, for example, can compel us to destroy relationships if we allow it to.

…Managing negative emotions also means not allowing them to overrun us; we can keep them under control without denying that we are feeling them.”

There are many different ways to manage our emotions. As we grow up and grow older, we discover them, usually without professional help.

The Boy Toy Tycoon

You probably never heard of the six year old boy who has attracted billions and billions of eyeballs on YouTube. He is simply known as Ryan because he is so young. His YouTube channel is called Ryan ToysReview and children love to watch him play with toys and review them.

Ask your children, or grandchildren, if they know Ryan. You can tell them the big news. Ryan just accomplished another great feat. Walmart has just given Ryan his own toy line. He is now known as the Boy Toy Tycoon.

The Ryan’s World toys will be sold exclusively at more than 2,500 Walmart stores in the United States and on the website.

Ryan is a social media wonderment.

If You Want To Know Who Q Is

I know that I shouldn’t get political on my blog, but this was just too good to pass up. So many readers have asked me to explain who, or what, Q is. This video is going to give you all the answers.

As far as I am concerned, this segment is an Emmy award winner. I’m more amazed about how well it was done every time I view it.

If you don’t agree, that’s your prerogative. For those who do, please pass this along to family and friends. Thank you.